- Do you have an uncomfortable feeling if you can not immediately know that someone is memceritakan a lie to you?
- Do you live a life where you communicate with many people and often you have a feeling like someone is lying to you but you can not identify anyone?
Actually the answer is simple. Look at the movements of the other party to make, look at the eyes and smile. Why? Because ... .. body language can not lie.
I'm sure we all never get an experience in which we listen to someone talk and even though his words sounded plausible and real, but there is 'something' that tells us that these people do not seem to tell a truth. 'Something' This actually is a message from the brain that wants to protect us. Our brains have a remarkable ability to quickly read all that we see and describe tanda-tanda/sinyal-sinyal. The more we train our brains to analyze something, the more quickly and accurately the ability of our brain.
There are 2 ways people interact with each other: the words and body language.Sometimes one of two ways to dominate the rest, but usually they act in concert together. In short the way it works is as follows: after the brain analyzes words and body language of our speaker, the brain will send a message to us, which will make us react positively or negatively, such as suspicion, belief or doubt.
When 2 this way, the words and body language shows a synchronization, which means that we and the other person we managed to get an effective communication and information submitted is an honesty. But what if there are contradictions between the words spoken by the way we say it? I've read that there are more than 1 million body language. So we're here talking about an extraordinary tanda-tanda/sinyal-sinyal. But again as I have said above, the more often we analyze this body language, the more clever we also define whether we're talking the other person lies or honesty. Sometimes we have to combine 2 to 3 body language to get an accurate conclusion.
Before we talk more about how to know someone is lying or not, it's good you know in advance the 4 types of liars:
1. Occasionally Liar
We all would never do lie during life. Unusual occasional liar lie, just for some reason they do it, maybe because they want to protect himself, his friend, someone he loved or someone else. Keep in mind that behind every lie there is always a fear. Fear to face a reality. Liar occasionally think about what's really going to say that it seems reasonable.But because they do not usually lie, his body language still shows many signs / signals which indicate that they are lying. So it is not too difficult to identify the type of liar like this.
2. Liar Time and time again
Liar many times are people who lie 'regularly'. Unlike the occasional liar, liar many times did not have time to think about the lies because they lie all his life. But they actually realize that they're lying. These people are often stuck with their actions do not match what they are saying.
3. Natural Liar
Natural liars are people who lie constantly and often they do not realize that they're lying.Their body language also looks very natural, because accustomed to lie. But when they pressed with questions that corner, her body language showed the contradiction that identifies that they're hiding something. Type somewhat similar to a natural liar liar repeatedly. Maybe you've heard the term 'knowingly', yes this is one example of the type of natural liar.
4. Professional Liar
Type these liars lie for a particular purpose or deliberately wanted to trick us. They studied all the possibilities and find out exactly what they want to say. They create a scenario, taking into account the risk of failure and make backup plans. Although they are trained to use body language, but there is always the little things they missed. We can know the little things are very often observed, of course. One example of this type of liar is the salesman, apologize in advance what I mean here is a salesman who is too much to promote a product when the product itself has a very low quality. Another example is the corrupt politicians, they are deliberately deceiving the public for personal gain.
How you can tell when someone is lying?
No need to become a psychologist to be able to learn and to know that someone is speaking lies or honesty. A psychologist who have advanced to know exactly the patient is lying or not, as the psychologist who interviewed Princess Diana moment. He claims that Princess Diana was telling the truth when interviewed about the infidelity of her husband, Prince Charles.
You can analyze like that with the continuous training of course. Psychologists can because they are accustomed to read and analyze people every day.
As mentioned above there are 1 million different body language, I will summarize some of the general course that shows that someone is lying or not:
- The position of the body can be evidence to show that someone is lying, as they realized or not realized there is a strong relationship between thought and expression.
- Breath of a sudden. In every lie, the heart rate increases and breathing will be shallow / quick. Usually liar will take a deep breath to calm feelings. This method is also adopted by the lie detector machine, namely by measuring the heart rate the person being interrogated / interviewed.
- Anxiety in the parts of the body. This can be seen in various ways, depending on the person. Nervous movement that will attract our attention mainly to how we feel when we are talking to someone we know and the person doing the unusual. Here is an example of restlessness in body parts:
- Movement of the body back and forth, whether in a sitting position or standing.
- Position the sudden change. For example, the other person we're crossing one leg over the other leg, and when I started answering our questions, he changed the position of his feet. People who lie, even though he's a professional, will feel discomfort when he is lying. The body will always adjust our feelings without us knowing it, so the position is suddenly changed this is a good signal that indicates that someone is lying.
- These movements are not aware of the hands and feet. For example: shaking legs, shaking hands on the table, both hands tightly bonded, the two thighs pressed together with each other. If the other person we're in a sitting position and then he change the direction of your feet toward the other, it also signals that the person is lying.
- A smile is fake. A smile is identical with the familiarity and trust, and the liars often abuse it. So how to distinguish a smile liar? The liar will usually smile quite frequently and abruptly, which actually is not in place he should be smiling.
- Too many of the actions of 'quasi-familiar', like: pat your back, touch you or hold position on you. The other person will feel uncomfortable when you lie so that they will hide kekikukannya by doing such acts. It would be very difficult to decide that someone is lying if he committed acts in a friendly way. This is a natural human response. But still keep in mind, that if you feel that the intimacy of your speaker is excessive, be careful.
One again, a very popular proverb says that "when someone is lying will be obvious in his eyes.", You may also have heard it. But for me this way is quite difficult to perform than the above methods.
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