Below are some body language that you need to consider when talking to someone:
1. Do not cross your legs and arms.
You may have often heard that crossed his arms or legs can indicate that you are closed to you and this person does not create a good relationship talks. Open always position your hands and feet.
2. Make eye contact, but not at him.
By making eye contact on the other person talks you can make the relationship better and you can see if they're listening to you or not. But also not to look at him (continuous), because the other person will make you become restless.
If you are not accustomed to making eye contact the other party to make, indeed you will feel discomfort at first. But just do it on and you will get used someday.
3. Make the distance between your legs.
Gives the distance between the legs (not sealed) in both standing and seated position indicate that you are sufficiently confident and comfortable with your position.
4. Santaikan your shoulder.
When you feel tense, you will also feel the tension in your shoulders. Usually seen from a slightly elevated position and shoulder forward. Try to relax the tension by moving your shoulders and back backing or leaning back position.
5. You nod when the other person is speaking.
Nodding signifies that you really are listening. But that does not mean you nod excessive (continuous and fast) like woodpeckers, because you will look like artificial.
6. Do not bend, sit up straight.
Bending signifies that you are not passionate about, and upright intention here is to stay in the corridor relaxed, not tense.
7. Lean body, but not too much.
If you want to show that you are interested in what is conveyed by the other party to make, lean your body slightly toward him. But do not be too too skewed because you look like will ask for something.
If you want to show that you are pretty confident and relaxed, lean your body slightly to the rear. But also not too skewed, because you'll look arrogant.
8. Smiling and laughing.
Bercerialah, do not be too serious. Relax, smile and even laugh when someone tells a funny thing. People will tend to listen if you look as a positive. But also do not be the first to laugh if you own a funny story to tell her, because you'll seem nervous and like ask for pity.
Smile when you meet someone, but do not also smiled constantly as you will be storing things behind your smile.
9. Keep your head straight.
Do not look down when you talk to someone. You will look like are not comfortable talking with the other party to make and also looks like someone who is not confident.
10. Do not rush.
This could apply to anything. For those of you who have a habit of walking quickly, try occasionally to slow down your street. In addition you will look more calm and confident, you also will feel your stress level is reduced.
11. Avoid movements that indicate that you are nervous.
As touching your face, wiggle your leg or tapping your fingers on the table quickly. Such movements indicate that you are nervous and can disrupt the attention of the other person or persons who talk with you.
12. Efektifkan use your hands.
Instead you use your hands for things that can disrupt your attention to the other person, as mentioned in point 11 above, it is better you use your hand to help explain what you convey.
13. Lowering your drinks.
Often we talk to someone while holding a drinking glass in front of our chest. This attitude is somewhat less good because it will make the 'distance' is quite a distance between you and your speaker. Lowering the position of your drinks, even if you have to hold it until the near leg.
14. Do not stand too close.
The man who changed his position to be too close to his interlocutor to indicate that he is hiding something or have a specific purpose. In addition, of course, will make his interlocutors become uncomfortable. Always keep 'privacy' between you and your speaker.
15. Reflecting.
In the books on sale, I often find the term of this glass. In essence, when two people are connected and having a positive conversation, they are not aware of each other look in the mirror one another. In a sense you will slightly mimic the opponent's body language you speak, and vice versa.
You can also do a proactive look in the mirror technique (consciously) to further improve the quality of your relationships and your speaker. For example, if your speaker leaned forward slightly, you can also lean your body forward. If the person you put one hand on the table, you also can do the same. But still keep in mind, do not do artificial movement with a very short lag time and almost all movements imitated. The other person you will see an oddity and looked like a circus.
16. Always keep your attitude.
What do you feel will be channeled through body language and can be a big difference to the quality of your relationship and your speaker. Keep keep a positive attitude, open and relaxed.
Keep in mind that you can change the body language that is not good, of course, as long as you understand that to create a new habit requires a process. Do not also try to do all at once because it will make you confused and tired.
Focus only on the 2-3 body language becomes your priority and improve continuously for 3-4 weeks. After that time you will create a new habit. Then you can continue it again for 2-3 subsequent body language.
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